Who works the hardest?

When a couple has been married for some time and they get used to their routines, there is a tendency for them to play a game of discussing and sometimes arguing about who works most and who is the most tried The scenario play itself out mostly among career people. If you have a husband and wife both working hard to make ends meet they would occasionally fall into the altercation over who is lagging behind, who is not doing what he is supposed to do and of course if this debate is not rested amicably, it could continue and eventually lead to a break up!
You would hear utterances like "she/he does not appreciate what I am doing, "I am tried and he does not do any house work. For younger couples who are just setting out and are career working class people, it is important for them to share responsibilities in terms of finance as well as house chores. We live in a generation that says a woman should do the house work. She has to wake early, sweep, clean, cook and see to the children if there are any. The question is during this time what is the man doing?   If they both have to leave for work and come back towards late afternoon, there should not really be a debate over who works hardest or who is playing the most important role. The truth is they both work hard and if they are performing up to expectation, they both are playing a role that is of utmost importance to the harmonious continuation of the family. A family that has a lopsided situation where only one partner in the union provides everything( these days women are also playing the role of breadwinner) there is bound to be some level of friction. Especially if the breadwinner feels there is something else his money ought to be doing that its not.
Often arguments about saving money, how much should be spent on what and what the main focus of the family should be over a period of time. The fact that these debates are taking place is a good sign. It shows that the people involved are deeply concerned. The verbal exchanges however should be tempered with patience, careful criticism and creative solutions to problems. If screaming, accusations and complaints occur in a tense atmosphere, arriving at a congenial resolution would be difficult, if not impossible. So what is to be done.
First of all, a serious progress meeting should occur between members of a marriage union as often as possible. Plans and projects should be set in focus with commitment from both parties. What are they doing for the year? What should be there priorities? Who can do what conveniently? This takes us back to the issue of household chores. The man can play a role in the house hold. There are manly duties like lifting heavy objects. Rearranging furniture, in some environments its the men that take out the trash. If a woman is alone with her husband in the house and she also holds down a job, nothing stops the man from helping out around the house.